Windsor, Ontario, 2017: It is the same for most people and it is repeated year after year. Every New Year 90% of all people set some sort of New Year’s resolutions. Yet, 92% of those resolutions will fail and here is why.
Shooting for the moon can become so overwhelming and stressful that success seems too far away. In these cases any progress short of your goal is looked at as failure. Therapist Rick Saruna of Body and Mind in Windsor, Ontario calls this, “The Mind Trap.”
Abandoning a goal or a resolution that is a struggle releases a person from the feeling of failure since they are not actively trying. It is a way of justifying a negative behavior with a behavior that subconsciously is perceived as less negative. Subconscious expert Rick Saruna says, “The thought is if you are not trying you are not failing.”
The most common New Year’s resolutions or goals people set are for weight loss and to quit smoking. These two goals are set by many each and every New Year. Yet by the end of January these goals are abandoned and old behaviors are resumed. However, they can still be achieved if done properly.
In order for goals to be achieved they need to be more specific, realistic and attainable. This is true especially of someone that has been trying repeatedly for the same goals without success.
A determined and motivated person can go for their goal and attain it. Determination is decided by motivation. Motivation is determined by belief. Belief is determined by previous success. So if a person has experienced failure in the past the chance of success in the future will drop significantly.
The key is to set smaller and more obtainable goals because success will breed success. The important thing is to see each step as an achievement to motivate to the next step. Clinical therapist Rick Saruna who specializes in weight loss and quit smoking says, “When someone has a goal that is important to them and they are struggling, then they should seek a specialist to help them. This will keep motivation high, because goals will be broken down into simple steps and it will be done in a supportive environment. Then, you will reach your goals.”